Old Fashioned Thinking "Ah Gong and Ah Bo"(Grandpa and Grandma)儿时趣事（2）。 公公和婆婆

Old Fashioned Thinking "Ah Gong and Ah Bo"(Grandpa and Grandma)儿时趣事（2）          

5 daughters and 1 son

   I  was the first child and the first grandchild who stayed with grandpa and grandma. Grandma doesn't seem to like mom, she used to ordered mum to do this and that. She would scold mom if she saw rubbish on the floor, scolded mom for late cooking and etc. I used to step forward and explained to her for my mom, I sometimes even fight back impolitely. So bad, right? Although grandma loves my aunt's daughter and their whole family better than us, luckily, she also loves me. She never scolds me when I fight back. 

               My 4 sisters and I  were blamed for this. Chinese like sons more than daughters, they wish to get sons to inherit to the next generation, by carrying their surname. The daughter won't carry or use the family's surname when naming their children but follow the husband's surname, then the "originate" family surname will break once deliver a girl.

             I still remember the day when my mom about to deliver a baby, my grandparents waited long for my dad who had accompanied my mom to the hospital and should have to bring back good news. After the nurse brought out the newborn baby and informed dad, daddy had to call back to informed grandpa and grandma who are waiting anxiously in front of the door where my dad needs to go back to inform them. when they saw dad arrived, they ran out and asked: "Boy or girl? "This question had been asked about 5 times. Dad also had answered "girls" for 5 times."Girl again...Si Bon For" Then they went into the house disappointingly.

               I asked mom what does it means by "Si Bon For ", why were Gong(grandpa) and Bo (grandma) so concerned about gender, mom told me"This is Hakka direct, Gong (grandpa) have old fashioned thinking where he believed to deliver a girl is  a loss."

            

               Grandma had 2 sons, they are my daddy and uncle, daddy got all 5 daughters but uncle got all 4 sons, Grandpa went to visit his grandsons twice a week or more. Grandpa also bought many presents for them. Just because they were boys, and never buy for us, just because we were girls.

               Mom still did not want to give up, she planned to have another baby, she believed the next baby would be a boy. Mom was made the right decision. Finally, she got a baby boy. That day our whole family cheered for the newborn baby boy. I wonder why mom didn't continue pregnant,  she might have two or three more sons follow after my 6th brother.....who knows....?? It might happen if my mom tried...